Two friends and I moved into a house off campus when I was a junior at Iowa State University.
We were all a bit afraid of our landlord, a rude middle aged man who was "all business" when we signed the lease.
He gave us a lecture about paying the rent on time and maintaining the house and appliances. We weren't really supposed to, but during the fall semester, my housemates and I threw a party.
We sent invitations to many friends and told everyone that we knew to come to our house on Friday night. We drew a large crowd and everyone had a great time. The last guests left in the wee hours of the morning.
Exhausted, we decided to sleep in and clean the house and yard the next morning. Well, you guessed it!
We were awakened about 7:00 a.m. by our landlord, who was knocking on the door. Sheepishly, we let him in, expecting to incur his wrath. Instead, he picked up a party invitation that had been laying on the sidewalk and asked, "Why didn't you girls invite me?"
He came into the house, made a minor repair, and spent a few minutes helping us pick up trash from the yard. We weren't quite sure what to make of our unexpected luck.
I figured that he viewed my housemates and I as irresponsible after the party incident and this would prove him right. But I was wrong. He said, "I have a daughter about your age, and the same thing happened to her once. He also taught me an important lesson about not judging a book by its cover.
What's the structure of this passage ?
A.Stay patient B.Ask questions C.Change the topic of the conversation D.Try to listen E.Don't take it to heart. F.Put yourself into their shoes |
If the topic of the conversation is boring, it actually makes a bad conversationalist. Try to change the topic whenever you get the chance. In case the person doesn't understand it, don't give up and keep talking about something else. Insistence is a must here. The person will either go away or start talking about the other things.
Dealing with a bad conversationalist is stressful, I know. But you should stay patient no matter what. Count to ten, breath and finally listen. This way, you will show you are respectful and you will avoid any kind of conflict. Just because the person is a poor conversationalist doesn't mean you should treat them badly. Respect is essential in any conversation.
Listen to their story and offer your support. It's so easy to avoid people without asking them why they wanted to talk to you. Maybe that person needs your help or advice. Put yourself into their shoes and try to help them and cheer them up; you will also feel good. A bad conversationalist is not always so bad.
Another good way to deal with a bad conversationalist is to pay attention and listen to them carefully. When you pay attention, you catch details that you would miss when you're distracted. Also, focus on the person's body language and expressions and you'll decode the full message and know the person's intentions.
If you can't avoid that person, then ask a lot of questions. Learning something new feeds our minds, whether it is useful or not. Human brain can absorb a large amount of information and an average person uses less than 10% of the brain capacity. So, you can even benefit from a bad conversationalist, if they answer all your questions or maybe they will run away from you.