When someone has deeply hurt you, it can be very difficult to let go of your anger. But forgiveness is possible-and it can be(surprising) valuable to your physical and mental health. So far, researchshow)that people who forgive can have more energy, better appetite and better sleep. "People who forgive show(little) anger and more hopefulness, "says Dr Fred Luskin, who wrote the book Forgive for Good. "So it can help reduce the tiredness and allow people(feel) more energetic."
So when someone has hurt you, cool down first. Take a couple of breaths and think of somethinggives you pleasure: a beautiful scene in nature, or someone you love. Don't wait for an(apologize)."Many times someone who hurt you may never think of apologizing," says Dr Luskin. "They may have wanted to hurt you or they just don't see thingssame way."
Next, keep in mind that forgiveness does not necessarily mean(accept)the action of the person who upsets you. Instead, learn to look for love, beauty and kindness around you. Finally, try to see thingsthe other person＇s perspective（角度）．You may realize that he or she was acting out of ignorance（无知）.To gain perspective，you can write a letter to(you) from that person's point of view.
